Welcome back to SOLO at SIXTY!
I got to see all of my kids this past week, so you know that makes me a happy momma. Last blog I wished y’all a happy 4th of July. My 3rd time celebrating the 4th SOLO, and I got to do it with both of my daughters, and my son-in-law’s family. I was fine. Got to run with my older daughter and then have a glass of wine with her at King Family Vineyard where my younger daughter was working before we all went to the cookout at my son-in-law’s Grandpa’s house. Lost at Corn Hole (no surprise there). Marveled at my son-in-law’s fireworks which were the best ever! And I had 2 of my 3 kids with me. But the big highlight of the day was Sweet Baby Lily, my son-in-law’s brother’s baby. First time I have held her and let me tell you she is precious. I did not want to give her up.
“To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there.” Barbara Bush
Thursday morning I headed to the beach after picking veggies in my garden at 5:30 am. (No joke! Had no opportunity to pick all week and needed to do it then or my okra and cukes would have been MONSTROUS when I returned.) Was on the beach by 1:00 and stayed until after 7:00 pm. Heavenly. Late afternoons are my favorite time on the beach. I read another book, found my beach treasures, napped, ran, replenished my soul. And Friday afternoon, I met up with some of my “old” cheerleader friends and their families who were vacationing an hour away in NC. So fun to visit with friends who have known you for almost 50 years! We carpooled to school and cheerleading practice in our nonair-conditioned cars. Imagine that! Thanks to social media, we keep in touch, but we still had some catching up to do. Saturday was spent on the beach with my older sister followed by dinner at our 2nd favorite restaurant, Gulf Stream, which always has great sunsets.
“Happiness is meeting an old friend after a long time and feeling that nothing has changed.”
Sunday I had a date with the best looking, most wonderful guy EVER! My son! Oh how I adore that kid. Loved catching up with him in Charlotte. Also met my younger sister at Mom’s in Winston-Salem before heading back home to the real world. So thankful Mom still knows who I am, and yes, she thinks I am in my 30’s! And you know what? I really don’t want to go back in time. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my life. Was happily married with 3 wonderful kids. Basically a stay at home mom (which I loved being) with several accounting clients so I could work from home. But I actually love where I am in my life today at 60. SOLO and living life my way.
As I ran my normal route through UVA this week, I saw many parents and “first years” (UVA speak for freshmen) on grounds (UVA speak for campus) attending orientation, looking very apprehensive. Reminded me of going to all of my kids’ college orientations (SOLO I might add). I was terrified at the first one – my older daughter’s at UNC. As we got off the shuttle, she said Mom I am nervous, to which I wrongly replied, Me too honey. I had no clue what to do and they separated us from our kids right away after singing the Fight Song. Realized I had let this child choose a college where she knew NO one and would be 4 hours away from home. What was I thinking? But it had been her dream… and it was coming true. Then my younger daughter’s orientation 3 years later at UNCW was nerve-racking as well, but she was very calm and confident. Second child. She would be over 5 hours away from home, but only 10 minutes door to shore (Wrightsville Beach). I had a hotel room at Wrightsville Beach for her orientation! And finally, 3 years later, my last college orientation for my youngest, my son’s at UNC. Again, he nor I knew a soul there. But it was more fun and less scary as I knew what to expect this time and knew my way around campus and Chapel Hill. Hard to believe this college journey started in 2003 and ended in 2014 with my son’s graduation from grad school.
“Being a Mother is not about what you gave up to have a child, but what you gained from having one.” (or three!)
So my week ran the gamut of family, extended family, old friends, new memories, old memories. I got to see all of my children, my sisters and my mom. I got to spend time with old friends and their sweet families. I had a great week, how about you? Did you do anything for YOU? Look in the mirror – that is the one person who will always be there for you so make sure you take care of yourself. Have some fun! Make the most of each and every day, because as we all know, none of us is promised tomorrow.
PS I cannot end this blog without a word about the incredible rescue of the Thai soccer team and their coach. What big answers to big prayers. My sweet Momma asked me Sunday if my son played soccer with these boys! Oh Momma, no, he is 27 and they are 11. Never mind that they are a continent away! BUT she remembered my son was a big soccer player!